this is the second installment of a recurring series wherein I'm temporarily forced to face the trials and tribulations of life as I once experienced them long ago -- as a single guy. you may recall last time... it did NOT go well.
So Kelly is gone this week at Young Life camp, which means I’m solo-dadding all week long. The week is only half over, but I’m beginning to develop some takeaways that I think are worth sharing.
So Kelly is gone this week at Young Life camp, which means I’m solo-dadding all week long. The week is only half over, but I’m beginning to develop some takeaways that I think are worth sharing.
Firstly, to be congruent with the emphasis of this blog, this makes workouts and nutrition more difficult (lots of runs with the stroller). Most notably, I no longer have time for nice long bike rides, which is regrettable. But also, and this is a larger takeaway… I no longer have TIME.
Emily Joy is smart and awesome and hilarious and insightful and caring and pretty much the best miniature person in the entire world… but she also is a black hole of time. (wait… are black holes already black holes of time? I mean isn’t time theoretically affected by how black holes consume light? Wait, do they CONSUME light? Sigh – I wish I understood astrophysics. I should probably re-watch that Cosmos mini-series…)
Anyway, she takes an incredible amount of time and energy. And here’s the thing… there is only one of her (I think… I should probably check on this -- it would explain a lot). Between going on walks, playing at the playground, prepping meals, cleaning up meals, changing diapers, going to the store to buy diapers or stuff for meals, reading books, playing with blocks, stuffed animals, sports paraphernalia, and chasing each other… there’s just not time for… well, anything.
*** and right on cue – she woke up early from her nap. I am now continuing this post on the following day ***
This brings me to my main point: Moms are awesome. At this point, it can seem cliche to say that moms are overworked and under-appreciated, but come on. They're amazing! Moms of lots of kids? Single moms? How do they do ANYTHING else? How do they do it? No, seriously… how. do. they. do. it?!
Also, in case you’re offended by my focus on moms (as opposed to dads)… allow me three points:
- It’s not as though I’m normally shirking my parenting responsibilities. I’ve had Emily for multiple days in a row before… but a whole week by myself is a different ball game. (I’m retroactively realizing this is essentially what Kelly had to do the entire month of June while I was teaching a double-session of summer school)
- Yes, some dads are stay-at-home dads, and the responsibilities I’m describing here are certainly not exclusively held by women. I’m merely playing into our culture’s largely-held societal gender norms… I guess that makes me part of the problem.
- In regards to #2 above, please accept this (not actually very) counter-cultural cheerios ad as my peace offering. It’s a little corny and contrived… but I still like it.
Go hug your mom.
If you’re not near your mom, call her to tell her you love her.
And for good measure, hug/call your dad. That dude was at least picking up some of the slack at some point.
Thanks Mom & Dad. Love you.
(just to have some photos in this post: here’s a couple recent shots of Emily Joy & me)
trying on her new "hat" - she loves it. safety first |
final day of the Tour - I'm wearing yellow... she's riding in yellow... |
story time. she's the best. |